The Gap Between Knowing and Doing
You know that feeling when you're lying in bed at night, and your mind starts whispering all the things you know you should be doing differently?
The boundaries you need to set. The conversation you need to have. The direction you know—deep down—you need to move toward.
You know. But you're not doing.
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And honestly? That gap between knowing and doing is one of the most uncomfortable spaces we can find ourselves in. It's heavy. It sits on your chest. It follows you around during the day, quietly reminding you that something needs to shift.
Why We Get Stuck
Here's the thing—it's not about laziness. It's not even about fear, not really. It's about that moment when change becomes real. When it stops being a nice idea and starts requiring something from you. Your comfort. Your identity. Maybe even relationships that aren't serving you anymore.
We know our values, but living them? That's a whole different story.
We know we need to speak up, but our voice catches in our throat.
We know we deserve more, but we keep accepting less.
Knowing is safe. Doing is vulnerable.
The Deep Stuff
I'm not talking about the surface-level goals here—the "I should drink more water" or "I really need to organise my desk" kind of stuff. I'm talking about the deep stuff. The changes that would actually shift how you move through the world.
Like:
Giving yourself space
Setting a boundary with someone you care about
Leaving a situation that's slowly draining you
Choosing your own path instead of the one everyone expects
Asking for what you actually need instead of making do
Letting go of the identity you've built that no longer fits
These are the things we put off. Not because we don't know they matter, but because doing them means stepping into the unknown.
My Own Frozen Moment
I'll be honest with you—I've been there. I knew I was burnt out. I knew something had to change in how I was working, how I was showing up, how I was ignoring my own needs while taking care of everyone else's.
But I was frozen.
Because admitting I needed to change meant admitting I'd been doing it wrong. It meant disappointing people. It meant rebuilding from a place I didn't fully understand yet.
And that was terrifying.
But here's what I learned: staying stuck in that gap—between knowing and doing—doesn't protect you. It just prolongs the discomfort. It keeps you small when you're meant to expand.
You're Not Alone in This
I want you to know something really important: you're not the only one feeling this way. So many of us are carrying around this same weight. We're all walking around knowing things need to change, feeling that pull toward something different, but not quite ready to take the leap.
And that's okay. Really, it is.
But at some point, the discomfort of staying has to become greater than the discomfort of changing. At some point, you have to trust yourself enough to move.
A Question for You
So here's what I want to ask you today, and I really want you to sit with this:
What's something you know you need to do but keep putting off? Not the surface stuff—the deep stuff.
Maybe you don't have the answer right now. Maybe you do but you're not ready to say it out loud. Either way, I see you. I feel you. And I'm here walking this path with you.
Sometimes knowing is just the first step. Doing comes when we're ready to trust ourselves enough to move.
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